The beauty of being myself

Many times I hear people say, “be yourself.”  I used to wonder, “what is actually being myself?”

I have thought about the profoundness of its beauty several times. And now, I have understood it.

According to me, being myself is being loyal to my identity. Then what is my identity? This identity is what I have carried for so long and I don’t want to give up on it at any cost. I don’t want to wear a mask and say to the world, “Hey! I am perfect! You cannot beat me!” Instead, I want to show that that in spite of my earnest endeavors, I have failed a lot of times only to get up as phoenix from the ashes.  Remember, I am rising now and have not given up. I am proud of my scars which have molded me into the strong person I am, a person who is forgiving of her flaws

If people are attracted towards me because of my fake identity, then I don’t want that identity. I want genuineness in my identity which will go a long way in achieving the purpose of my life.  

The best way to be yourself is to strive to be the best version of yourself. Assess yourself in a constant basis (I do that) and make sure you are doing your best. I have some values that I am following till now and I want to stick to them, irrespective of the situation.

Well, now lets see a scenario. This happens mostly with me. When I am in the company of my friends, I am so self-conscious and tend to think too much about what I say. Then I think, “did what I say hurt others”, “are they getting bored with me?” “am I overdoing it” etc. Here then, I can ease my temperament by also showing my sportive nature. After all, if you truly understand the meaning of being yourself, you won’t overthink; instead, you will prefer peaceful humor and fix your attention on the present moment which is a gift to be unwrapped every time.

I cannot be myself if I don’t empathize with myself. Well, remember that empathy and self-pity are closely related terms. Some of us may not like self-pity. They may feel that a strong person should not pity themselves. That’s okay.  I will cover that in a different post. But you can definitely empathize with yourself and be appreciative of your achievements (even though small).

You would have imagined a life for yourself. For example, during my childhood, I used to play with my brother a “garden” game. We just used to place the pillows in the bed in a squared manner and imagine that they give safety to us. This house (we named it as garden) which is made of pillows showed a vision of giving safety to us in the long run. So what I am trying to drive in is that I want a safe and happy life for myself. I am also taking steps to lay a strong foundation for this house, which figuratively means happiness.

The real issue with being ourselves is that we have certain preconceived notions regarding it. Don’t let these notions dominate you. Realize that you are unique and even being different is not wrong. 

I always observe the quality of my thoughts and ensure that I am becoming the better version of myself day by day. I never compare myself with others and realize that I have a page in history which I alone can write.

Now you will question the following:.what if someone is really an irritating person and can he/she continue being the same, saying that he/she is being himself/herself? The answer follows in the next post.